It’s great to hear that others question. The enemy has used this as of late to depress me. Some people believe and accept all, no questions asked.and thats good, especially when their household is saved
But it’s hard when your desire, is for your child to be saved from pershing or your husband, but also knowing that they might not be elected, it’s like is my training up a child or attempting to in vain or praying is of no avail, or maybe my prayers are not effectual.

Here's my answer:

Hey Renee,

It is normal to have questions at times. But we always want to focus on the truths that we do know. Keep praying for your child and your husband, because Jesus told us to pray, to keep asking, seeking, knocking and we WILL receive, find and have the door opened. Jesus never told us to try to figure out if someone is elect or not, but he did tell us to pray.

There are many promises that parents can ask the Lord to fulfill. Isaiah 59.21 is one of my favorites: “And as for me, this is my covenant with them,” says the Lord: “My Spirit that is upon you, and my words that I have put in your mouth, shall not depart out of your mouth, or out of the mouth of your offspring, or out of the mouth of your children’s offspring,” says the Lord, “from this time forth and forevermore.” I pray it all the time for my children.

Jesus said we should pray always and not give up. Don’t quit praying for your husband and your children. I believe that since he put you in their lives and you pray for them that it would be his will to save them. As far as our prayers being effectual, I don’t ever FEEL like my prayers are effectual. But in James the Lord says “The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working” so I sometimes thank the Lord that my prayers have great power because the Lord says they do, even though I don’t feel any great power or see any results yet in those I’m praying for.

Hope these thoughts are helpful.

I answered it this morning – don't know what happened – I didn't delete it. Sorry. I'll check into it.

It is normal to have questions at times. But we always want to focus on the truths that we do know. Keep praying for your child and your husband, because Jesus told us to pray, to keep asking, seeking, knocking and we WILL receive, find and have the door opened. Jesus never told us to try to figure out if someone is elect or not, but he did tell us to pray.

There are many promises that parents can ask the Lord to fulfill. Isaiah 59.21 is one of my favorites: “And as for me, this is my covenant with them,” says the Lord: “My Spirit that is upon you, and my words that I have put in your mouth, shall not depart out of your mouth, or out of the mouth of your offspring, or out of the mouth of your children’s offspring,” says the Lord, “from this time forth and forevermore.” I pray it all the time for my children.

Jesus said we should pray always and not give up. Don’t quit praying for your husband and your children. I believe that since he put you in their lives and you pray for them that it would be his will to save them. As far as our prayers being effectual, I don’t ever FEEL like my prayers are effectual. But in James the Lord says “The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working” so I sometimes thank the Lord that my prayers have great power because the Lord says they do, even though I don’t feel any great power or see any results yet in those I’m praying for.

Hope these thoughts are helpful.

Great comments. A great source on this topic is the book Just Do Something by Kevin DeYoung. I highly recommend it. I agree, we don't have to pray about every left hand turn. When it comes to major decisions, I would pray (God promises to give us wisdom and guidance), regularly read the Word, and seek a multitude of counselors. If it comes down to having to make a decision and you don't have clear guidance from the Lord after praying and seeking counsel, then I would just trust make the decision and trust the Lord to guide you.

When it comes to healing, I always ask the Lord to heal people, since when Jesus walked the earth he healed everyone who came to him and asked. I know he doesn't always heal, and many I've prayed for haven't been healed, but Jesus said keep asking, seeking, knocking, so I will do that until he reveals that it's not his will to heal.