God commands believers to bear one another’s burdens. Implied in this command is that we must allow others to bear our burdens as well. To me, this is harder than bearing the burdens of others.
I would rather shoulder my own load and not bother others. Sometimes this is because of pride. I don’t want to appear weak. I don’t want others to know that I’m struggling with discouragement or unbelief.
Many times it’s because of the fear of man, or craving the approval of others that I don’t share my burdens. I don’t want others to know I fail as a parent. I don’t want others to know I’m having challenges with my teen or that I’ve been harsh or lax. I want to look like I have it all together, that I’m the perfect parent.
I don’t want others to know I’ve sinned. I don’t like to admit I’ve lied or given a false impression, or given in to lust or anger. I don’t want others to know I’ve been living in unbelief. I’ll just work through this myself.
Sometimes I fail to let others bear my burdens because I’m unteachable. I think I can figure things out on my own. Thanks for your suggestions, Tonto, but I got this one under control. After all, I’m the LONE Ranger, remember? Maybe the Marlboro Man could use your advice.
We need friends who will ask questions, like, “How are you doing in your heart? Are you tempted to unbelief or discouragement? Are you tempted to anger or being cold toward your child? Is Facebook a source of temptation for you in the midst of your marriage problems? Are you feeling bitter toward that person who sinned against you?”
It’s humbling. But humility is the path to victory. If we seek to cover our sins we won’t prosper, but if we confess and forsake them, we’ll find mercy.
How about you? Do you struggle to allow others to bear your burdens?