Jesus Hates Your Suffering

Romans 8:28 is one of the most helpful and hurtful scriptures in the Bible. It says:

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

This verse encourages us so much. It reminds that God uses everything – every joy and sorrow, every pleasure and pain, every breeze and backache – for our good and his glory. Nothing is outside of his good, sovereign plan for our lives.

But at times Satan twists this verse and uses it to convince us that Jesus likes it when we suffer. We adopt a defeatist, grin and bear it, suck it up, Eeyore, “I guess this suffering is good for me”, attitude. We start to believe that, in some way, Jesus likes it when we suffer. We know that he uses suffering for our good and for his purposes, but then we take it one step further and start to believe that because suffering is for our good, Jesus must somehow enjoy inflicting it upon us.

The idea that Jesus likes your suffering is a lie from the pit of the Hell. It is a Satanic, demonic, horrendous lie. It is a lie that must be crushed and obliterated by the Word of God.

Jesus does not like your suffering, he hates it. He despises it. When Jesus encountered death and suffering, he was not flippant about it, he was grieved by it. When Jesus’ friend Lazarus died, he went to meet Lazarus’ sisters, Mary and Martha.

Now when Mary came to where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet, saying to him, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in his spirit and greatly troubled. And he said, “Where have you laid him?” They said to him, “Lord, come and see.” Jesus wept. (John 11:32-35)

When Jesus saw the depths of Mary’s sorrow, he was “greatly troubled”. The Greek behind these words carries a flavor of anger and rage. When Jesus saw the destruction and carnage that sin and Satan had brought into the world, he was furious. When he saw the grief that swallowed up Mary and Martha he was enraged. Jesus came into the world to destroy the works of sin and Satan. When he witnessed the suffering that sin and Satan had brought into the world he was furious. There was a holy anger that bloomed within him.

Jesus hates suffering. Death and suffering were never part of God’s original, good creation. They are the result of sin and Satan. Jesus hates your suffering. He hates the fact that you suffer migraine headaches. He hates that you feel like an outcast and loner. It makes him furious that you were sexually assaulted. It makes him sick that you are bullied and mistreated. Jesus hates the work of sin and Satan. Jesus hates your suffering.

When you suffer, run to Jesus. He too experienced pain, rejection, sorrow, grief, and temptation. Because Jesus suffered, he knows exactly how to comfort, strengthen, encourage, and even deliver you. Because he hates your suffering, he longs to comfort, strengthen, encourage, and even deliver you. He was a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief – exactly the kind of person who can sympathize with you in your suffering.

Suffering will not always carry the day. Someday soon, Jesus will return – the victor, the conqueror, the death-destroyer. He will crush Satan underneath his foot. He will destroy all sin and sorrow and suffering. He will pour out his furious rage on Satan and cast him into the Lake of Fire. And he will make all things new.

Don’t for one second believe the lie that Jesus like your suffering. He hates it, and he wants to do something about. Let him help you now, and look forward to the day when he will destroy suffering forever.

  • @GoOnKev

    Ah, this is a good reminder…

  • MeWaiting w MIgraine

    the article leaves me with the thought, "what's the point?" Also, how does this discourse square with Rom 5.1-5

    • Stephen Altrogge

      Do you mean what is the point of your suffering? Or what is the point of the article?

      In regards to Romans 5, I think it squares well. We are to rejoice in the midst of our sufferings. We rejoice in our sufferings because we know that God is using them to work good things in us. Hope, perseverance, etc. However, that does not mean that our suffering is good in and of itself. As Romans also reminds us, the whole of creation groans for the return of Christ. All of creation has been thrown out of whack by sin and groans for its redemption.

      Does Jesus work through our suffering? Absolutely. Does he like our suffering? No, not at all. He is not a masochist who delights in giving suffering to us.

      Does that make sense?

      • Adam

        Totally makes sense! It has just occurred to me that sometimes when people's experience has not lined up with these truths, it can be hard for them to accept it. In other words, if a person has only experienced longsuffering, but never gotten all the way from suffering to perseverance to character to the most inportant, HOPE, then this can be hard to agree with. Hope, the joyful expectation of good that God gives makes us secure of His Love and intent for us in any situation.

      • Carlos Jamil

        Hi, Stephen!Meanwhile we are meat, hipocrisy is the main war we must fight.(in completing your txt (help, my church is full of hipocrisy).Hugs from Brasil.Second:4 days Lazaro was dead and the body was smelling bad. And even so, he showed the glory of God!Is there any reference that Lazaro was suffering?Alive sisters were, but Lazaro was sleeping!As Mary, the mother of Jesus is!

  • Adam

    I feel like Romans 5 has nothing to do with Jesus “enjoying” the fact that we endure suffering. I get from that passage that perseverance, character, and hope are by products of suffering. But that’s just my perspective. I see that suffering is a by product of sin that entered the world through man, and that despite man falling short, God brings good out of the choice man made.

  • beth

    this is good. thank you stephen.

    • Stephen Altrogge

      You're welcome!!

  • Angela Walsh

    Wow, didn't realize i believed that lie until I read this! Thanks for writing!!

  • Rebecca

    Best Post Ever!!! Thank You!!

  • Erin Pascal

    I really love the way you wrote this article. It was a very good read. For me, this is a very timely reminder. Thank you so much for sharing this Stephen! May God bless you!

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